Boost Your Attraction By Thinking Beautiful

Much of looking good is about feeling good, but when it comes to being positive about our appearance, most of us are our own worst enemies. Let's face it, no one's perfect, but instead of focusing on our good points, we tend to dwell on the negative. Add to this the fact that in our society, success seems to be measured by looks, and its little wonder many of us feel inadequate.
But there's a lot you can do to give yourself an air of gorgeousness, even if you aren't blessed with supermodel features. It's all about nurturing self-confidence, so you exude assurance and vibrancy. In other words, believe you look great and everyone else will, too!

What you need

• Self-esteem
  • Don’t put yourself down. Remind yourself of what you've achieved and accept that even if you haven't done every thing you set out to do in life, that doesn’t make you a failure.
• Positive thinking
  • Embrace your good points and accept your bad ones. If you're positive, the chances are others won’t even notice the parts of you that you don’t like - and you'll find that, before long, you won't be as bothered by them either.
• Focus on your strengths
  • Everyone is terrible at something - that's the nature of life. So don't beat yourself up about the things you can’t do. Instead of saying, 'I'm useless at...'or 'I look terrible in swimwear accentuate the good parts of you!
• A sense of direction
  • Set yourself achievable goals and targets, and pat yourself on the back when you reach them. Others will pick up on your confident vibes.

Give yourself an inner makeover

• Boost your self-esteem
  • Start thinking highly of yourself and treat yourself in the way you treat your loved-ones - with care. At the end of each month, write down three things you've achieved and be pleased with yourself. Tell yourself you're a good person who doesn't deserve to be treated badly by you or anyone else. Remember, you need to have a sense of your own self-worth before others will also think you're worthy.
• Practice being positive
  • Negative thoughts do nothing to enhance your personality or looks. So ask yourself if all the things you're worrying about or aren’t happy with are really that important. Remember that, while your hair and nails may not match those of a model, you're in the majority not the minority.
  • Question whether you really want to spend the rest of your life being miserable over things that are often only noticed by you? If you feel positive, others will react better towards you and you'll feel happier within yourself. Why dwell on the bad when you can focus on the good?
• Develop self-knowledge
  • Change what you can about yourself, accept what you can’t. This is important, as there's little point trying to create a look that isn't you, or attempting to be someone you’re not. Pick out your best points. When it comes to your looks, you could have lovely eyes or great skin, and perhaps you’re a caring, kind person. Often we admire good points in others, but fail to see our own.
• Set realistic goals
  • Think about what you want to achieve and list a few attainable goals that you can work towards over the next few months. Don't be unrealistic and remember that even small things count. If you don't meet the target, tell yourself you're on course and give yourself more time. Continue until you feel satisfied.

How to give off positive feelings

• Make an effort
  • Being groomed shows you care about yourself. If you don’t apply make-up or dress scruffily, you'll give off the impression you're not worth the effort.
• Make eye contact
  • Looking at the floor shows a lack of self-confidence, and if you keep moving your eyes away from someone while you're talking you’ll look nervous.
• Stay calm
  • Think before you open your mouth. If you babble a way to someone you’re just met, they'll think you’re jittery. You don’t have to answer questions immediately. By taking your time, you'll appear confident.
• Sell yourself
  • If you have great eyes or slim hips, wear make-up or a skirt that accentuates your good bits. You'll find others are less likely to notice the bits you're unhappy with!
• Watch your body language
  • Hold your head up, look ahead and walk tall. Deportment is an indicator of someone's personality; keeping your head down shows nervousness. Good posture also makes you seem taller and slimmer.
• Take an interest in others
  • We all love it when someone appears interested in us, so make an effort to chat with and get to know people you're introduced to. You'll seem friendly.
• Pay attention to detail
  • Paint your nails or do your hair a different way. Detail says a lot about a person, and if others can see you've made an effort, they'll feel you’re worth taking trouble over.
• Smile
  • A smile radiates confidence and we're all drawn to a warm, smiling face rather than a miserable, scowling one.

Remember

• The greatest gift you can give yourself is unconditional love
• Many of the world's most captivating women aren't beautiful. But their poise, confidence and inner feelings of worthiness say far more than a pretty face
• Beauty is partly down to looking good, but it’s equally down to vitality and energy